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Turn Your Goals Into Reality

Jan 15, 2021

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Join Bertie and Debbie as they kicked off their 2021 with an inspiring discussion about setting goals, new beginnings, and some practical tips to help you make your goals become a reality!

Transcript

Bertie: We're on, we're live. We're live!

Debbie: I like saying that. I feel like you can say that to everybody until about March, if you haven't seen them before. Yeah, I think so. Yeah. What are we talking about this morning, Bertie

Bertie: today we were talking about, and I forgot the title already. Turn and go goals into reality.

Debbie: Yes. Yes, yes, yes. How do you goes into reality?

You just gave me a stat that tomorrow is what were you

Bertie: saying? Yeah, so generally it's a round this time of the month. I think it's the 16th or 17th of the. Which is statistically can never say that word correctly, statistically, the day that people give up on their news, new year's resolutions. So that's, that's the day.

And interestingly, we always saw this. So back in the day, when we ran like a take-away ordering website, new year's day, mega busy, like the 15th, it was dead. It was like every day it was like, shit, something wrong with the website's not working like every, and we knew this every year. But it was so like, it just dips cause no one orders just takeaways on the 16th or 17th, whatever that day was coming up to the weekend.

Massive spike again, like you'd beat the new year records. It's crazy. And it was so predictable. So I think, you know, it's not just food is everything really like that is the days like you've had a couple of weeks. They get it. Like, we, we don't need this in our lives anymore,

Debbie: but we lose our resolve. You just lose the intention and you just think, oh, F it be sure to not eat takeaway.

Let's get back on the bandwagon. Yeah,

Bertie: that's right. So I think it happens a lot of things. I think this year, I mean this year is very different. Isn't it? Like, you know, there was a lot of people that were like Jaya January. It's going to be a thing. Two days later, a lockdown was announced and then that's just gone out the window as well.

So, you know, there's always these external influences that will change, but I think what the mistakes, a lot of people make with goals and I make them and, and everybody makes them, I see these with my clients as well, is that you can sometimes set a goal like. I want to lose weight or I want to run a marathon and all, whatever these goals are, but then you don't have a plan to get there.

So suddenly you've got this big goal that you want to reach, but then it's like, well actually, how, how do I do that? And that's always the bit that's missing. So it's not that these goals aren't achievable. Sometimes they aren't. Sometimes you set unrealistic goals or the expectations a little bit too high in the time of.

That you've got, but a lot of the time it's because the planning hasn't been put in there. So for example, I've started this year. And one of the things that I've started doing is sending out a daily email. So I've started emailing out my list daily. So going from having no communication from me at all to literally getting down.

Emails. So that task actually seemed quite big and quite scary. But when I thought about it, it was like well, what is it? Half an hour, a day is 30 minutes a day that I need to go into that. It's not that much. Actually it turns out to be about two or three hours a day because I'm terrible at writing.

And it takes me ages to edit my own spellings.

Debbie: And as, as a tip, use the tool Grammarly. I don't know if you use it

Bertie: on a daily basis.

Debbie: Yeah, I couldn't live without Grammarly. It's such a good tool.

Bertie: Absolutely

So I think broken down is the point. If you can break these goals down and actually don't just say you want to lose 30 pounds, for example, which actually is another one of my goals is I want to lose a pound a week.

And then actually you can start working towards that because if you can do that, like if you can lose that pound or if I can write that one daily email, I just have to do that again. It's just repeat. And I think that's the point that's missing. So actually it's a lot of the time it's I say common sense, but it is just taking that I want to achieve.

How do I break it down? It isn't rocket science, but it does require the extra planning that the majority do not do. So for example, so Debbie, you can talk now because I've just been rubber jumping.

I was thinking for me, it's like, I love the power of three. And for me it's a three-step process. There's something about creating intentions.

So for me, your example, if I want to run the marathon, that's an intention, which is great, but it's a bit Willie. Then the goal would be, I want to run. The Nottingham marathon and that's in September. And then the app would be, I'm going to put my running shoes on every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday at 1:00 PM before my lunch and do an hour.

Perfect.

Debbie: And it's about making more specific, isn't it? Because we make these goals, but actually they're kind of woolie and they're more like intentions about losing way, or I want to earn more money. Well, how much more money? Well, what are you going to do every day to earn more money? And it's that specificity?

Isn't it. And then like, I'm going to write my email every day. Well, if you pick a time of day and you put that slot into your diary, then that's going to get done. And it's, it's being really specific. What time? What are you going to do to get that stuff done and picking a day of the week or a time? And I think when you make that real specific action, that's when you follow through.

But when it's really like I'm going to run a marathon. What does that mean? It doesn't mean anything does it, like you can easily not do that, but, so I think it's like set the intention, then make it a specific goal. Then make the actions really specific, you know, what are you going to do? And I think that's the bit that's missing sometimes with goal setting, it just becomes a bit, yeah.

Fluffy.

Bertie: Exactly. And if you've got a goal that you want to go to, like, if it's, I mean, we've spoke before, you know, about creating goals with solar, all that stuff. Like it has to be your goal. It has to be something that you want to do. So, you know, you've got a partner, for example, there's banging on it, you for losing weight and you're actually thinking.

I'm fine as I am to get rid of that person straight away, but it's never going to be your goal. You're going to be doing it for someone else. So we spoke about it in work context and all that other stuff. So you know, one, it has to be something that actually you want to do, but it's not that you like motivation.

It's just actually you, you, you just need to figure out. What those baby steps are, and it's all about creating habits, isn't

it totally all about those habits.

Yeah. So, you know, you get up, you clean your teeth and all those things, you just do second nature. So if you then start, you know, for me start writing, what I feel is going to be the base of my email every morning before I start.

And then actually that might get fleshed out in the afternoon. That's that works for me. I want to lose weight then actually I've just got to stop. I need to plan my meals a little bit better, write down my calories and make sure that. Eating more than actually what I'm burning, which actually at the moment is very little.

So it's not eating very little lumps deleting like a pig, but I'm just not moving very much.

Debbie: So we need to move more. And I think also the other thing about this habits, one of the good things to do is to look for something that you do every day. And then think about the thing that you want to add into your daily routine and see if you can kind of lock it with something that you already do.

For example, like you said, maybe you go and have your first cup of tea in the morning, and that's when you write, you're always going to have that first cup of tea in the morning. So if you link it to the writing, then it's much more likely that you're going to do it. I've got a thing that I'm doing at the moment where I'm watching my Nan, who's kind of 84 and every time she stands up, she wobbles a little bit.

Yeah. Bumps into furniture and stuff. And I'm like, I really want good balance. So every time I brush my teeth and I've got an electric toothbrush that takes two minutes, I stand on one leg. And in the evening I brush my teeth for two minutes. I stand on the other leg and to brush my teeth every day. So then if I stand on each leg and it's like, if I do this until I'm 80, I'm going to have great balance.

Sandwiching it with something else that you already doing, it means, means you're much more likely to do it. So I think that's the thing as well, is trying to find those times in your day when it can fit. And when you can link it to something else, you're much more likely to get it done.

Bertie: Yeah, exactly. And like we said before, like it doesn't have to be rocket science.

It doesn't have to be over complicated, but if you do want to do something and rather than just say, I'm going to do it, just take that extra. We might only be 10 minutes. They will actually physically, how am I going to achieve that? Break it down into months of it's like a yearly goal of there's something you want to achieve by the end of the year.

And then you can just break it down steps. Like it might be a saving goal. For instance, if it's a saving goal, if you want to save, or if you want to go somewhere, then you need to save money. And if you need to just do that, then you need to, you know, work out what things you weren't going to buy and what you were going to buy, et cetera.

And then just break it down in that manner. So. It needs that planning stage. And me personally, I'm a very much a, I'm the sort of person that will just go ahead and do things. I don't like to planning too much detail, but you do need to have a. Plan. That doesn't mean that you can't you know, ad lib and go off script and do other things as well.

But you need that at least that, that basic plan of of where you're going.

Debbie: And I think conversely, like we just talked about saving goals. If you've got a goal this year to make X amount more money, actually breaking that down, like how. How much would that be a week, a month? How much would that be a week?

How much, how many clients or products are we selling? How many more clients or products do I need to sell to make that goal and actually breaking it down step by step like that? Because then it seems a lot more achievable actually, because once you've broken it down, you're like, oh, actually that's only one extra client a month or.

Five extra sales a week, and that makes it seem like a more attainable goal. And then you've actually got those weekly goals to kind of hit and it kind of pushes you. I need to hit that goal. I'm going to put as a post on social media, I'm going to ring that client who said that they might be interested in and firm up that lead.

And I think the more specific we can make stuff and the more we can break stuff down, the more likely we are to hit those, hit those goals. So break it down. Be specific. And

Bertie: just do it, just do it, just, just to get, just go in there and do it, but then you're working towards those smaller goals. You know, there's smaller plan actions that you've done rather than the massive, big goal that you've set in your organization.

You know, running the marathon, actually, it's just on Friday. I need to run from. I have for an hour, then just getting myself on I, so you need, you put all those things in,

Debbie: and I've, I've read the habit book at the moment and it's like, don't make running the habit, make putting your running shoes on the habit, because once you put your running shoes on your.

Yeah, great. Well done and put the shoes on and then you're like, well, I've got to run now, I've got the sheets and then it just pushes you out the door. And I thought that's really interesting. Make the first step, the habit, and then everything else follows through. So next week we're going to talk about time management.

Aren't we?

Bertie: We are

Debbie: a lot of my clients about this, you know, can people with kids at home and trying to run businesses and all of that stuff. So talking about how we can manage our time better. Make the most out of it. So to that.

Bertie: Yes. Yeah. When you drill into that, there's so many things that probably would we do without even thinking that just burn through our time.

So, yes.

Debbie: Yeah. Fabulous. So come and join us next Friday at 10:00 AM on Bertie's LinkedIn and my Facebook. And afterwards on Instagram TV. No, Bertie's LinkedIn. My Facebook. That was right.

Bertie: You got

your Facebook, your Facebook, and IGTV afterward. We did

Debbie: we'll share with our time management tips review. So see you next Friday at 10.

Bertie: See you then! Bye!

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