Creating Great HabitsOct 08, 2021
This week, Debbie and me talk about how to create great habits to grow your business. We all know that habits can be good and bad, so we share what good habits we've created and tips to help you undo those bad habits!
Bertie: Good morning. Good morning again.
Debbie: Cause you know, fuck the faction
Bertie: affection. That's it. That was three weeks ago was to, oh, it's done it again, Debbie. I don't know why. Okay. So sorry. If you're watching live, we just have to set up Debbie's Facebook thing.
Debbie: Can I just keep
Bertie: talking, just keep talking.
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Debbie: make it look seamless, make it look seamless. So this morning we want to talk about habits and how you can create good habits. And I think talking about creating good habits, it's also about recognizing bad habits that you might have and then thinking what you can replace them with.
And essentially, as we think that we do, or most of the things that we do, a kind of habitual. So that thing when you reach for your mobile phone and then you start scrolling through, that's a habit like the order and the sequence of when you wake up in the morning, that's the habit, the way that you utilize your day and fill it, that's habitual their habits.
And so actually being aware of how you want to build your business, create your day, use your time. It means that you can start thinking, well, what habits do I need to create to have the output at the end of the day, week, month? Yeah, whatever that is. So I think women talk about habits for me. It's about being really, really digging into what you're doing and what results you want and how you can get those results from.
Bertie: Yes. Yes, absolutely. Yes it does. And we're all live as well. So
see, I, I love talking about habit habits. There's some really good podcasts books and things out there about this whole subject. I think the thing with habits, I think we watched the same presentation recently at marketed live, where you were speaking. Fantastic. And you know, talking about that, the whole system one and system two parts of the brain now.
But on this, but it's the way that I understand it is, you know, system one is your auto pilot. So when you start getting the habits going, then that's that's that really helps you in system two is the better I could have these, the wrong way around, Google it, maybe windows system two is it. We have to consciously think about stuff.
So I think the great thing with habits is if you can actually make some things a bit cheerful, something that you're doing every day, that is just going to become easier. Like for example, now I just wake up. Get my gyms to Freddy and go to the gym in the morning, four days a week. It's just a habit. I don't think about it anymore.
I just do it. I never even think about, or should I not go today? I mean, occasionally I'm really hung over then. I won't, but you know, generally that's a good habit that I've put into and it's, if you can form these habits with your business, if you can make them habits, then you don't have to think about them as much.
And then you do just get that stuff done, a palette. And that really, really helps.
Debbie: Yeah, I would, I'm reading a book at the moment. It's really good called tiny habits by BJ Fogg. And he suggests kind of creating small habits one after the other. It's not trying to change everything at once. Then it becomes too much, but thinking what are the small things that I can implement day-to-day and his suggestion, which I really like is the first habit you should make is that every day when you get out of bed and your feet land on the floor, you say I'm going to have a great.
Because that would just change your view about the day you're going to go at it more refreshed and excited. So I think it can be like really small, incremental things that you do that mean that you're going to have a more productive day, because just that very apt to saying I'm going to have a great day today.
Can just change your very view of what's possible.
Bertie: Completely. Yeah, just, just those small things as well. I think by nature as humans, we are very impatient aren't we like we'll so conics asks for the name of the book again,
Debbie: it's called tiny. Bye BJ Fogg,
Bertie: BJ dog. I think I may have read that, but yeah, I've read a few books on her.
I think atomic habits is one that I've that's, that's another one as well. Yeah, highly recommended. So yeah, I think th th I think, yeah, by nature, we are naturally impatient on once things really, really quick. And then like, you know, like the times when I've tried to lose weight it's been like, right.
Okay. I'm not getting any more chocolate, no more chips going to the gym all the time. I'm going to do X, Y, and Z, and then try to do too much, far too quickly. And then it fails. Yeah. Whereas, you know, by starting small, actually just right. Okay. I'm just going to start going to the gym or like, for example, this week I went running for the first time in God knows how long.
And it was, you know, like had used to run. I wasn't like a marathon runner or anything, but I could comfortably run like five to eight miles. Like not now, like not a chance, but so is that right? I'm going to go out. I'm gonna run for a mile or actually, I didn't even say that I've said I was gonna run for 10 minutes.
Like I could do 10 minutes. Yeah, that's fine. And did it, and that's the start, you know, that's, that's how you can start with things. Or maybe it's just that it you've said this before. I'm just gonna put my running shoes on today and then, you know, maybe just go for a walk and these things really, really help.
So just starting small and not trying to. Because everything is different at difficult, even at the beginning, like none of these, that like any of the habits, like people say to me like, oh, I can't believe you get up really early for the gym. And like, oh, I'd love to do that. It's like, we'll just fucking do it.
Like, just get up and do it. Well. And then do that again and again, and eventually it will become a habit like cleaning your teeth is a habit. You don't think about it. Or most people don't, they just get up and clean their teeth. I wish my kids would just get up and clean their teeth. Like, you know, it's, it's, it's a difficult thing to do it.
You're just rubbing cleaner teeth without
Debbie: being prompted. Yeah. I actually came to TAFE about being prompt to check an estimate without being prompted. Right. So I'm the catalyst for the beginning of that habit. I've always, she'd just been in bed all day, so I have to kick her out of bed and then once she's out, she's made the first step, then she knows what she's going to do next.
So yeah, sure. I think the other thing with habits creation, like you mentioned, brushing your teeth. So Don mills has just said you're right. Best not to overthink it. One of the best things. With habits is find a habit that you're already doing and then attach another habit to it. So for example, I had a client that was working with, and she loved the Pomodoro technique where you set a timer for 20 minutes, you do some work and then you have a five minute break.
And then you do that. She said, when I remember to do it in the morning, I'm really good. I do it for the whole day, but some days I just forget. So we looked into what she does every morning and every morning she goes and turns the radio. So I said, great. So when you turn the radio on, put that post-it note on it that says set timer, because you already habitually turning that radio on, and then you see the post-it note and then you set the timer.
So you can kind of make it easy for yourself. Look for things that you're already doing, and then stick a post-it note on it to layer up the habit for the next thing. Cause I think also when we expect our brains, remember all this stuff and we want to create new habits. It's hard. So we need some cues. So it's all right.
To have triggering post-it notes everywhere, because eventually she doesn't need that post-it note now because she turns the radio on. She sets the timer, turns the radio on sets the time. And so I think also looking for things that you can buddy up with that you're already doing, helps you build and develop those new house.
Bertie: Yeah. And I think in one of the books has been coined just habit stacking, or maybe I've just made that phrase up, but
Debbie: yeah. Habit stacking. Yeah, I think,
Bertie: yeah. And you can, you can take things as well. Like if you're doing some things that maybe you don't like and is something that you do like, so for example, if, if there's like a series that you like watch on Netflix, but you don't like the treadmill.
Tie those things together, you know, be disciplined and say, actually, I'm only going to catch up with whatever it is you're watching when I'm on the treadmill. Yeah. So you can do those things as well and take something that's maybe not that pleasurable in the beginning, beginning and turning in something pleasurable.
And that helps you form good habits as well. But habits are really important. Yeah. It's the same, like when you're, you know, like if you're having a website, people work on autopilot, right. They don't like to think too much. You're always trying, like you getting people to do those things that they used to doing, you know, that, that buttons in certain colors and things.
So it, this thing's just carries through in you know, across the so much we can talk about, I think is the point I'm trying to make with, with
Debbie: habits. I think the other thing is that our brains are lazy. So it just goes to what we habitually do, which isn't always the best order of doing stuff. So you're almost having to retrain your brain to make that kind of neural pathway because then your brain will go to the, well, that's the easiest option because that's what we're doing now.
And you're kind of fielding that up. So that's why. You ended up not doing the habits you want because your brain just goes to, well, I just automatically, I dunno, get up and sit down and have a coffee. Well, what you want to do now is get up and go to the gym. But the more times you get up and go to the gym, you'll bring more.
Then think that that's the easiest solution and it would just go automatically to that. So you kind of rewiring your brain with habits, which I think is fascinating. Cause we have all these stupid sayings, like elaborate, can never change its spots, but we can adapt and grow and learn. It takes time.
You've got to do the work, but it's not kind of insurmountable. You have the power, we have the power to kind of adapt and really engineer the days that we want to get the outcomes that we want, whether that's keeping fit, answering emails. Turning your Pomodoro time on, in the morning, whatever you want to fit in.
You can do that. And I think the other thing is making it a priority to say for exercise. I always said I don't have time to exercise. I don't have time to exercise. When I started paying for an expensive gym. I found a lot of time to exercise because then my brain was like, well, I don't want. Lose the money.
So I'm going to find the time. So think about the thing that will make you kind of do it. So conics just said a hundred percent agree with this. You can change and it, and it does take time. There's another thing I wanted to share with you guys. There's a, there's a website quiz called the four tendencies.
And there's like four kind of personality traits. If you Google four tendencies quiz and it's quiz to help you think about how you make new habits. So I am an obliger, which means if I tell other people I'm going to do stuff, then I have to do. Because I worry about letting people down. So also thinking about how you do stuff is like a useful insight as well, to go and check out the four tendencies quiz and find out what type of personality type you are.
See if that resonates with you and then think, okay, well, if I'm this type of personality, Can that give me some insight into how I can create these new habits. Yeah.
Bertie: There anything like that is really useful because if you can actually understand how you're wired to begin with, and everybody's different, everybody's unique, but I think you raised a then, then that helps you make those correct decisions going forward.
But I think that you said something quite a while ago about just like your, you know, your, your is lazy and things like that. That's. A lot of people think that. And of course that is, that is true, but that's a design fat. That's not you being lazy.
Debbie: It's just going for the easy option because it uses less calories.
Bertie: So that's the, yeah, that's, that's how our brain is trying to say calories. That's what, that's what our brain is trying to do. So you, this is why. Consciously thinking about creating new habits and try new things, then you change those neuropathways is that it? And then you change those connections and then they become habitual.
So if you're not there thinking, oh, this is all right, but it doesn't apply to me. You know, like, you know, you're different or whatever. It's like, no, we're all the same. But just try it, just try doing those things. Cause things, you know, we are in, we've developed these habits, like, you know, phones, for example, you know, you look around, everyone's doing the same thing, scrolling.
Like it wasn't a thing when I was a kid I'm sharing my age now, but like, you know, that's, that's just because it's just so easy to use. And actually now people form habits that we spoke about this before I just pick up the phone and start scrolling. Everybody does it. And I don't even know what I'm doing so well, what am I doing?
We've just formed a habit. Born like that. And it is difficult to undo them as well. I do like some habits and much more difficult than others, but if we focus on creating new ones and just actually say to ourselves, no, fuck that. Like I can create new habits. There's no, w we're not we're not born lazy or maybe we are born lazy, but lazy.
And you try, we just try to save energy. That's all. And if you can find a simple. Better way of doing them and that's not lazy. That's just being smart. Isn't it? So, you know, I love automation and saving time on things like that. So I can put more time in my day for naps. I'm all in.
Debbie: I love the idea of nothing.
So you wake up really early, then you're at the gym and then you just have a nap. You left, apparently that can make you live longer. Like there's a lot of scientific evidence that not too good for us.
Bertie: So I I'll be definitely living a long time then, because they goes by, I used to call it a power nap and now I've just given up.
It's just an app. I've just got the age, get a little task, a blanket over my knees. I'm just having.
Debbie: So, so we need to nap and create good habits Bertie so that we're still doing the business fund size live in our
Bertie: nineties. Yes, exactly. You need more next day. I'm sorted on the naps. Like next week, we're talking about napping having that live on it.
Debbie: So conics, what did it kind of say? I'm so glad to tune in today. I'm just doing a new morning routine, creating new habits, and it's been getting, it's been great. Getting needed some resources. Yay. And Dawn's loving the ideas of the quiz. Yeah. Go and find out what makes you create. Stack them up with other habits, know that your brain is lazy, not because you're lazy just to save energy and just think about how do you want to engineer a day?
How do you want to live your life and just start kind of small changes.
Bertie: Exactly. Yeah. Chronic. What might be, I'm going to run a 5:00 AM challenge soon. Now this is. Been very reluctant Debbie space. It's not very reluctant to do it because I don't I'm I'm really not saying you have to get up at 5:00 AM and this is, you know, like that's not, it it's something that I've done and I really enjoy, and I like that peace and quiet in the morning.
Now when no one else is about. There's a really good book called miracle morning. I would strongly recommend that if you, while you're on your Amazon buying things but I'll be taking those learnings and running it as a free challenge, probably in about two or three weeks. If you want to message me or get in touch, follow on social, then I'll let you know when I'm doing that.
So by all means get in touch, Debbie. I think we run out of time. Is there anything else you want to?
Debbie: Yeah, I want to say an extra thing. I'm like Connick. Cause I know that you're into social enterprise. I don't find your books on Amazon as a really good website called hive.co.uk, that pulls books from local booksellers.
And for every purchase you make it donates money to a local bookshop in your town. So go to hive.co UK and they deliver for free as well. So you don't have to pay postage or anything. That's my little you know, big for good businesses. That connect says that he's up for the five and challenge.
So you'll have to let us know how it goes.
Bertie: We'll do it. You don't, you won't be joining us then Debbie? Nope. Nope. Not a chance outside your house in the morning, Sarah and
Debbie: you with your McDonald's coffee and that and a bacon buddy. Yeah,
Bertie: that's it. That's what that's that's what's going to happen.
Debbie: Love it.
All right. Thanks for watching, listening listening and watching. Watching and listening. Yes.
Bertie: What you're watching today, Lee, thanks for joining us live and you can always count on the tenant 10 podcasts, this link. Thank you very much. We'll see you next week. Live at 10 o'clock every Friday. Is that it?
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